I read this article very carefully but the thing is do respect him more than anyone else I love him Alot and am in his nikkah last few months he is in sudia and am in Pakistan lives with my family and waiting for my rukksati in this duration we both communicate with each other daily basis I know he love me but the thing is he disscus my private talk with his friends that makes me feel bad so what can I do I give him everything he wants to me but there is no feelings I feel very upset when he want Cam sex or dirty chat how meany times I told him that I feel bad when you disscus my private stuff with your friends but how meany times he will never stopped and I discussed my my father my mom was expire last year and no one else can help me so please I need your help. I have to stay with my parents. It is tge complete right of a woman if she doesnt want to live with his husband afterwards. One of the purposes of getting married is to protect the private parts. What should I do. Thanks for advice. But Allah is forgiving and merciful. Allaah has caused men to be attracted to women, and women to be attracted to men, and this inclination sometimes results in haraam relationships such as zina, and sometimes it results in permissible relationships such as marriage. Below is one of the verses of the Quran that explains this. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. I cant tell you that the same might apply to the husband if he refuses, but its his duty in Islam to satisfy his wife in intercourse and he cant just go to sleep without fulfilling that. (interpretation of the meaning): Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in Informative article. If you respect your husband and his needs ISA he will respect yours. I liked him and I liked everything about him. Thats extremely difficult these days. Thus, you are right when you ask how can this be right if it is destroying the first family. Your husband must be open and transparent with you in this matter and realize that his decision is detrimental to his current family if he does not resolve your lack of participation. Even I agree with it, wat do u hav to say for this.? istikhaarah about divorcing a husband who is treating her well and taking It will still hard for us before we get used to the Idea! You need to make taubah and try to learn more. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. assalam o alaikum, SUBHAN ALLAH thank u bro for sharing such a nice and meaning full message, very good job,JAZAK ALLAH,,,,,,,,and pray for me m searching a bride for me. Why should a nice type Muslim sister be patient when her husband is verbally or even physically abusive, emotionally distant, selfish, childish an narcisstic? From your question, it may be understood that Allaah has Some points made in this article are good,but that does not justify being sexist!All men think about having another wife? , Just wanted to add, dont be afraid to compliment him. Just because your husband doesnt treat you in the way (you think) the Prophet (pbuh) treated his wives, doesnt mean your husband doesnt love you. I got married to him for my family, soon after marriage the day I went to his house the entire house burden n my father in laws responsibility was on me. After all we will be questioned for our actions not what others did or did not do. Second, is your question about polygamy, as to whether the first wife has a right to object to her husband's marrying another woman. This is just how it is, in all schools of thought in Islam. these are selfih man, and simple women who dont stand up for themselves. For the women here, i want to say that most of the times human never foresees the results of allahs commandments. if you study Islam truthfully you will know u need to ask first. Surah Mujadilah (58) Read it. Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. where it is not clear if the matter is good or bad, and the Muslim does not I did not find anything to be forced. 3. He never defends you but always defends the person that u have a problem with? According to Talmudic law, Abraham had 2 wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. Urgh..How transparent..what a way to twist things to advocate ones own desires.. I take care of myself, very physically fit, attractive and for being a westerner, I do not fit the stereotype of an easy american woman. It is a mans NEED. A woman who cannot conceive a child doesnt have to be frigid. If I would get to know about a special reward, things would be easier to accept. yes we look 4 men who r followers of the great nabi not the followers of devil n their so called peer preasures . But in the end i would say it doesnt mean thats the end of life. Very sad to hear this sister. My husband thinks that as he left this lady, then his condition becomes worse. coz its natural, most people are inclined toward people who show concern, respect etc over them. For shame! and his wealth, until he meets Allaah with no sin on him. Classed as saheeh desires appear attractive. BarakAllahu feekum. If she is telling you otherwise its bcuz she thinks thia is the best she can hope for with u and ur marriage is in big trouble. Shukuran! Fee amanillah. Are you close to them? 2. Well done. I have no idea how all this happened but it happened and believe me it wasnt easy for me. A man who thinks about other women issue- he will not get that much desired loyalty,respect and the sex on the plate that he expects from his wife. What should I do if my has bansband doesnt tell me anything about the truth even very little things, Question, my fianc is muslan Im catholic, he dont want to do anything until we got married but we almost did everything is the right? Its halal but the man has to live up with it. I just find out he have been with man to. But it must be received and acted upon, no excuses. Shame on these people. This, like everything in religion, comes down to meaning and application by the individual. Well as a muslim man, I am required to question my ownself before going for second marriage. He would say his family is who give birth to him and he grow up with Im just woman he marry. Ishmael and I met in 2018 on Muzmatch, a dating app for Muslims. The Law of Allah(swt) is complete in every aspect. Ive had a friend with this situation. It's not just about love The Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, "No believing man should hate a believing woman. She will ONLY be cursed if her husband is angry. So my long question is, is what I am doing wrong and how can I control my desires so as to please Allah. Did your family find out details on him before marrying you? We have been married for 18 years. i agree with u kay. The part about sex is ridiculous. We are all human and built that way. @Mr. O Allah, this is my division in the case that I am capable of, so do not You reproach me in the case that You are capable, whereas I can not. and Allah knows best. Get it together men. You have given him all you can and he is still throwing it back at your face, be strong and walk away. Al-Tirmidhi (2399) narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the You sir are correct issue at hand is that most people here are A. I cant love him and give him what he wants. For anyone who is not fair to his wife, there will be consequences on the Day of Judgment. He again threatens you with divorce if you go forward ? firmly either to do it or not to do it. When my husband was alive we lived comfortably. of Abu Saeed and Abu Hurayrah. i understand now whyand hope that we can adjust to each other more. His last words to me were that he had a headache and is going to lie down till Esha. However, he would have failed to give her own right, and fulfilling the right of a muslim is an obligation, as such, he would have committed a sin. I think I am going to leave him and allow him to go back to his home country to his Real Family (whom I truly love). 7. I appreciate your responses! reward mentioned, but al-Tabaraani narrated from Ibn Masood that the I disagree with #4. I love my husband but he hurts me too much when he calls me names like stupid, shaitan, shit, May Allah forgive me if I am in pain he doesnt comfort me I cook something and it doesnt come out nice he insults me in a harsh way not been nice like e.g Maryam your cooking wasnt nice keep trying and you will get better , then I would listen and respect him he compares me to his friends wives, please help me when ever we fight he doesnt give chance too speak only insult me so I treaten him I will leave you our maybe we should get divorce. Allah, Most High, does not command that a married couple love each other. May be its a new beggining of life which Allah knows more and he is the creator and Almighty. Jazaakallahu khayran. my husband is never happy, he will open mouth to criticize, if salt was less, or it tested bland. I find it absolutely appalling to expect a Muslim girl whose been chaste all her life and hasnt had any such contact with men to all of a sudden in one night open up completely to her new husband! Its a designated duty of the wife to comfort her husband, and protect him for indulging in something unlawful or from being distracted from his own responsibilities. Unfortunately, so many men (most traditional men, not truly religious men) use this as an excuse to be philanderers. Its so heartbreaking. Source: From Maqil bin Yasar, he said: Somebody came to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam and said: I have a woman who has dignity and beauty, but she is barren. If a woman refuses to have sex with her husband, maybe her husband should ask why she is doing this and actually listen to what she says. Furthermore being constantly compared to the prophet Muhammad (SAW) is a good thing it will help you to improve. This is the one part of Islam that I will never accept, a man should NEVER be allowed to marry more than once simply because he wants to. If both the partners worried more about providing the rights of the other rather than waiting to give rights only if they saw nothing missing in the rights they were getting, Im sure life will be a lot simpler. I will always read this article when ever i feel down or start to loose hope in my marriage. Thank you SO much. He Wants To Have Sex More Often. This will add to your familial kinship relationship. But for the couple who are in agreement with one another and understand one another and know that perhaps you have had a long day, your stressed about work, your worried about your childrens exams etcc..The husband should understand and in that regard the hadiths punishment does not apply. He isnt a mind reader. Well you should about that before gething married then, would you rather him go to someone else. Praise be to Allah. one is in the case of polygamy he can refuse her husband of it if its in the nikkah contract. Not pretty enough. Of course sister if a woman wanted to have sex with her husband & intensionally he refuse it. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". This may be found out by researching about the man and asking his friends and neighbours, and the imam of his mosque; you should not base your decision on emotions or unverified claims. I agree with Kay and I am a muslim Man. Your husband needs to know that youre going to be by his side if: You should be loyal to your husband before everything else except Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). In Islam, men are taught from a young age that they are supposed to be the bread-winners and caretakers of their families. Allah knows best! Sincerely, this was an eye opener. He uttered the divorce words three times in one meeting, then I went back to my parents house. If your men want to marry let them and they will get their justice from Allah they clearly didnt love you in the first place. I love this reply, thats exactly how I feel about men marrying multiple wives today. Perhaps you noticed something about your husband's behavior in real life, which triggered your suspicion in a dream. There are many going on right now as we speak, many man who die in war, many widows and children left alone, many divorces and broken families, more and more man who turn out to be gay. Firstly: A woman does not have the power to divorce (talaaq) her husband; rather divorce is in the hand of the man, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: " (The right of divorce) belongs to the one who takes hold of the calf [i.e., her husband]." Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah Therefore not expecting her if she was unwell. The matter of the fact is men are only permissble to marry when there is a geniune reason exists along with prerequisites. JazakAllah to the author, thank you!!!! This has been described in one verse in the Quran., (Forbidden on you) collects (in marriage) two sisters, except what happened in the past: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Verse 4: 23), 17. Next time he gets ready for work button his shirt or tie his tie and tell him how handsome he looks. The bottom line though is I like ur article. Its not just men. other wife well, she will have the reward of al-muhsineen. that one thing man need just like food and drink. arguments. It doesnt mean hes going to cheat on you. I really enjoyed it and may Allah bless the author,amin. I prayed a lot the day before and asked Allah to help me. So.If the women is the bread winners, is the shoe on the other foot? I would like to know if it is completely unacceptable or impossible to ask a potential husband if he and his potential wife could wait until they knew each other a little better before being intimate? He was kind and gentle with them. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Trials will Would you rather he cheat and have haram sex ??? And Allah Knows Best. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. Ever wish you could read your husbands mind? I am a converted Muslim(Hindu to Muslim) bt I learned Urdu. We were both widowed. This list will give you good idea of some of the things your husband thinks about, but just doesnt know how, or want, to tell you. In the end your own integrity makes you stay loyal. I was in shock for days. Sex in men is projected outside, and in women its hidden deep within. salam,im sure the article written is in good faith n might help some but by God centuries have passed in trying to teach women how to make their husbands happy,not that theres no more need 4 it yet its about time as per the holyQuran when women will ask what my fault was!!! Sex when he wants even if the woman doesnt?? I firmly believe in equality, but realize men and women have different roles in the family. That doesnt mean whatever we like is good and rest is ridiculous. The person I was getting married knew I never wanted to marry him and I dislike him from my heart and I can never love him. Honestly the muslim women today are taking theri commitments way more seriously than the brothers. permissible manner. One of the blessings that Allaah bestows upon some spouses is I may not have it word for word though. So please dont act like its forced on you, on the contrary you DO need to ask your wife for permission before taking another wife. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals with them justly. However a woman is not the same level as the man as shes required to please him in whatever situation unless its a situation where she has no power to do anything about (i.e monthly periods). Read your message and its very sad to know how this brother is treating you. Most men and women are using the Quran to twist things in their direction. Imagine if someone told you Oh dont worry your wife thinks of other men its completely normal how would you feel?? Sad to say, many many Muslim men are horrible examples of men, fathers and husbands. But this year, he told me many lies. My husband and I have been married for a long time. I am Canadian but he refuse to eat our food. I read that, and I was shocked! Not spending time and money for me. We have Your side of the story sister. Here are the hadith that explain this, O youth, who among you who have baah then should he marry (Narrated by al-Bukhari), 9. Here is one of the hadiths where Prophet Muhammad SAW advocated men to choose fertile women. Also kind of hypocritical how the writer first says women want to feel loved and men want to feel respected. The woman may be ill and cannot meet her husband's sexual needs. If you man is not sexually satisfied by you and he is out for bread-winning, he may fall into something else, and it may eventually lead to be a greater disaster than Sex without feelings/Not wanting to. I started feeling he only wants few things from me I must be there with him on bed whenever he wants it I must cook food for him I must do all the household things and inreturn he couldnt console me not financially not mentally n not even emotionally. I will not stand for it! very nice.. now all we have to do is FIND ourselves nice husbands worthy of all what u have written in the article above..but to add a point, women are not servants.. they are mans partners.. equal partners in life. Sex releases stress. Man is not allowed to divorce a woman just because she cannot give birth to his son/daughter but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. 660. There is no other option. Here is the sound of chapter 53 that governs the marriage of women who are pregnant due to adultery. married to him. It's unpleasant and uncomfortable to be admonished. However, this is not the only opinion or interpretation of how to do this. I think the writer of this article is a bit misinformed. Its so clear what is being ordained for us: monogamous marriage except in highly specific circumstances, such as those you mention, and always within the clear rules. married, then how can you be sure that he will not fall in love with someone All that guy did was take money from my friend, travel abroad to visit his wives, and then dump her when she found out about all his wives. Answer (1 of 7): if you don't want your husband to marry another woman tell him. What, he gave her Mahr money, so now he owns her and shes his sex slave? His duty is to protect and provide for the family, even if the wife is stronger and wealthier. A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. While I liked and agreed with all the points here I have to say the part about taking a second wife really made me angry.. on one hand you suggest that men try to make us happy yet how is considering taking a second wife goes with all that?? Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which He commandeth them, but do that which they are commanded. (Verse 66: 6). I am a devout Muslim but multiple marriages disgust me. I wish people didnt have to deal with such unfair treatment in relationships. These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously. It is a secret bond and divorce is strongly discouraged by Islam. second wife will bring a special reward over and above that, for several We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. Disclaimer:The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. I met a Muslim man three years ago. The TLC newcomer was in a long-distance relationship with her then-boyfriend . i really like this article. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". It goes so far in Islam that if a woman wishes to perform an optional fasting (not the ones in Ramadan) she NEEDS to have her husbands permission! They are rather contradicting statements. And no man likes knowing a woman he wants to be with will surely bail out if he is not satisfying her. He told me the coworker was jealous because I liked him. with them)] for you and you are the same for them. Now that I am on the receiving end, I realized how wrong I was in denying another woman this PRIVILEGE of a husband. Dont unsubscribe from my mailing list just yet. These doubts will persist and will be a cause of anxiety for So brothers and sisters before talking about the chances of your husband or yourself getting married again we need to fix and improve our current marriages. My above statement was based on what I have understood from the article. sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, not even a If he is of good character and religiously devoted he will go his daily life making sure to follow the sunnah of the prophet and the holy Quran. Same goes for a man: he can be infertile without being impotent. Nice comments you wrote there though, and I enjoy reading em. This article is informative. You have to live your life to the fullest and your children deserve a safe and loving environment to grow up in, not one in which their beloved mother is abused. If a man is ignorant, unaware or does not care about his wifes emotional and physical needs, then he has set the clock for her to NOT want to be with him. The purpose behind marriage was to provide shelter and financial support to widows and victims. ALLAAH made them that way. Whatever you decide to do (leave him or try again), may Allah guide you towards the right path and give you happiness. Let me explain this. but why would some one care like a muslim wife cares coa she wants to save her aakhirah.. hey sista. I jus wanna say just because this is what you would wanna do to your woman doesnt make it right. We have to open our hearts to Allah and be compassionate. U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. And dont be so quick to nag him about the things he doesnt do right. It just means that all (straight) men do, at some point in their lives, consider having another woman (i.e. @Paula- So sorry that you have to deal with all this:(. (3) Dispute over marriage between the lady and her husband.. Marriage contract involving an unidentified woman: Death, if the.In general, the marriage of a married woman, or of . Jazakallah khier. The author of the article should revise that fact about multiple marriages and how it say it should be undertaken only due to dire needs (not because He wants to for fun). He assured over a three year period he was singleno kids nothing. This article is hilarious and so made for men who need to control and own their wife. Am I not good enough? A week after he came back, he told me that he had got married in Egypt. 5. Good always comes from a bad. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers. Her patience in putting up with her husbands marrying a responding to great kindness and good treatment with a great wrong and if a husband truly loves his wife then he will never leave her. take time to find out. Never! If you sincerely repent from your heart, then Allah SWT is Most Merciful and will wipe away your sins and transform them into good deeds. There needs to be an article about what men can do for their wives bcz Im sick and tired of reading any more tripe as to how I can better serve a man. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. However, among the conditions of polygyny, is that the husband should be able to afford the obligatory . U just mention everything from men side but ll these important for a woman as well. Bravo, sister, that was very well said and definitely needs repeating often. Im just 19 almost 20 in sha Allah and not used with a marriage so i cry often(now without reasons of course) and i dont always use the greatest tone when im mad at him but i do other amazing things for him which whom now he forgot. Allaah has caused men to be attracted to women, and women to I was so happy because I met this man that I thought was honest, faithful, trustworthy, and sincere. Men have distorted Islam to the point its unrecognisable. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error. 6 mos later he asked me to marry him. The least of the 7th pts however is #4. I call that rape. But you decide to endure bcos of ur kids n bcos he always threaten to collect them from you. Man and women are psychologically different as well. He loses his job and the money gets tight. She was loyal and pleased him sexually, why did he venture off? There are, however sir, double standards- and I think thats part of the root of what most people here contradicting you are getting mad about. Thirdly, make active steps to change your life for the better and live in a way according to what Allah asks of you and this is better for you and your happiness. I am an educated older woman. I just wanted to mention that its natural for men to think of other women just like its natural for women to think of other men. Is it true? Going for Second Marriage: Do I Need Wifes Permission? He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. 2 If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and the So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husbands] absence what Allah would have them guard. Im sure each wife will be happy with that. However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and tight-lipped. Its obvious this was written either by a man or a brainwashed woman with no self respect or dignity. Imaan will give you the strength you need to overcome the problems in your life and deal with things you are unhappy with. Whatever Allaah makes easy for him So much responsability. Men really desire sex. -_- I am in 2 minds about the multiple wives issue. sis i am so sorry that you are going through this : ( May Allah reward you for your strength and improve your situation ameen. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife. and first of all if a man is thinking about another woman other than his wife he is already committing a sin and marrying another woman without the consent of his wife he will commit a bigger sin regardless anything. Allaah says sis if u r true Muslim then I would deeply advise you to fear ALLAH. Quran says that the man has the right to have 4 wives, but he needs to love equally, provide equally, protect equally. you, why is he striving to wreck your home and destroy your family? Lastly, make sincere dua that Allah SWT blesses you with someone who will love, respect and be a good role model for you and this is the best outcome inshaAllah. I love my husband sooooo very much, and he is wonderful! man destroy your life and your family. Give them a life of good and worth living. 1. to grant you what is desired by you My husband converted to Islam 7 years and I converted 4 years ago. I raised 3 of his beautiful children. in Quran it was said to marry more than one. Why is that what mean want and/or need is some kind of standard and women should just be satisfied with whatever emotional crumbs her husband tosses? Perhaps hes not the best Muslim in the world.You can nudge him to make him better. this young man will treat you as nicely after marriage as he does now? Honestly speaking? This is a great article about men and how to keep your husband happy but why is there never any mention of how to keep a woman happy and what a man can do for a woman? Why do you think men like buying women gifts? Society has changed and you shouldn't quit your job because your husband is being selfish by not giving you space. i wont share my husband even after my death. good care of her. Yeah so what if a we chooses to aim higher at least we dont sit on our back sides everyday and live off JSA every week. I could see some poor girl who is being abused reading that and validating herself and coming back for more. @mr. handsome there is no such hadith, please show us, man has to take care for his wifes desires but the punishment or his requirement to fulfil are not of the same level. To the person who wrote this artical.. Amen! Showing us no tenderness or thoughtfulness, making us second best to your mum, your family, your mates. Does the husband need the first wifes permission to have a second wife? Women are more loyal and giving than the person that wrote this article thinks. Allah created men and women to be each others companions not competitors. Allah knows best, Are you kidding ME????? 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